Wired for Connection

We are social creatures by nature. Some are less social due to personality or temperament, but humans tend toward needing connection and relationships. Being that we are largely social creatures, we will do and say things that are intended to bring about some type of...

Balancing Act

Marriage information and relationship information for better living. We all seek balance and a sense of being enough. We want to believe things are in working order and that we ourselves are basically ok. At times, though, stresses and difficulties can throw this off....

Who do we blame?

How do we view the problems in relationships and how to manage them? Often we view relationships as individual times two. In other words, we really look at it as the individual’s responsibility to be ok, to be healthy and independent, and then to relate to their...

When They Weren’t There

If you are like most married people, you married expecting your partner to be there for life. We plan to be there for them “in sickness and in health” and believe they will be there for us, too. Sometimes something happens that causes us to doubt that they are really...

Not alone

I wake in the middle of the night with a feeling of uneasiness, a vague anxiety that things aren’t alright, that I am not alright. Then the fears start to come and attack me like the sound of dogs barking in the darkness. As I lay awake they continue, relentless and...

On your mark, Get set, Go!

What do you do when you realize you have been blaming your spouse for what’s not going well in your relationship? Or maybe you believe your partner is to blame, but you realize that expecting them to change isn’t working. Maybe you’re ready to step up and take...

The buck stops where?

We’ve been talking about focus and how it can be good if we focus on something worth moving our life toward, or bad if we become focused on what we think is wrong about another. If you realize you have been too focused on what is wrong in your life (or someone else),...

Straight Ahead

Back when I was learning to drive, I found it hard to keep the car driving straight in a smooth way. II drifted to the right and I would correct by steering to the left. Back and forth from left to right the car would move as I was always in reaction. My driving...

New Year’s Decisions

New years bring new opportunities and challenges. We never know what lies ahead, and maybe it is good that we don’t know. We stand at the beginning of a new adventure, and the unknown tomorrow awaits. It is unchartered territory, an unexplored world. The choices we...